January 11, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
I woke in the middle of the night in awe of a Facebook video that I experienced: The Beauty of Being You. At three a.m. I had to drag myself out of bed to pen these thoughts and emotions. I was deeply touched by the beauty of what I experienced. I began to reflect on […]
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7 Reasons Women Attack the Men They Love: How to Respond Without a Fight
July 20, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Virtually every man who has been in a love relationship has experienced his partner coming at him with critical emotion. Often the “attack” feels completely unwarranted. Understanding these 7 reasons women attack the men they love and how you can respond without a fight is critical to healthy and happy relationship. Are you ready to […]
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7 Ways to Get That Loving Feeling Back
May 2, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Have you lost that loving feeling? Here are 7 Ways to get it back…and keep it! It is no mystery that feelings come and go in relationships. Songs have been lamenting this reality since the beginning of time. But you hear little factual advice about what to do to get your loving feeling back. Where […]
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Trust After Betrayal: Moving Forward
April 17, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Are you stuck in the trauma of betrayal? Are you unable to move forward in your love relationship? You are not alone! It can feel hopeless to trust again when we have been betrayed by the person we love. Betrayal: Where does it begin? Emotional or sexual affairs Not being present for the delivery of […]
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How Emotionally Focused Therapy Can Save and Transform Your Marriage
February 29, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
I will never forget the day I sat wide and teary-eyed in my Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) externship. I watched as Sue Johnson, co-founder of EFT, worked live with a couple, exposing us to the EFT process. It was like nothing I had ever seen before. None of my previous therapy training had prepared me […]
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Attachment and Anger Part III: Taming the Tiger Within
February 1, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
What if you are caught in a cycle of conflict with the person you love and your bad anger is destroying your bond? How do you tame the terrified tiger inside of you? Most intimacy anger is rooted in the fear of losing the person we love. And we often have difficulty admitting to ourselves […]
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Attachment and Violent Anger Part II: 4 Dangerous Ways to Express Our Anger
January 24, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
In Attachment and Violent Anger Part I, I talked about how attachment with caregivers in our early-years causes us to form either a positive trusting view of our selves and others or a view that is negative and mistrustful. Loss of attachment is critically dangerous to human beings. When people trapped in the World Trade […]
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Attachment and Violent Anger – Part 1: How They Are Connected
January 18, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
How are Attachment and Violent Anger Connected? Understanding the connection between intimacy and anger is important for improving our own relationship, and if you are a therapist like me knowing how to help others. Some couples I work with are so stuck in a cycle of anger that the emotional communication work I normally do […]
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The Beauty of Being You
January 11, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
I woke in the middle of the night in awe of a Facebook video that I experienced: The Beauty of Being You. At three a.m. I had to drag myself out of bed to pen these thoughts and emotions. I was deeply touched by the beauty of what I experienced. I began to reflect on […]
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Are You a Pursuer or Withdrawer?
October 14, 2014 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
What happens when you get into an emotional conversation with your mate? Do you pursue the other person to try to get him or her to understand the depths of the pain you are feeling? Or do you find yourself being overwhelmed by your partner’s emotion and feel like the best thing to do is […]
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Emotional Attunement is Essential for Marriage and Personal Health
September 30, 2014 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
What is Emotional Attunement? Emotional attunement is being tuned in to the emotions of others. From the time we are born we need at least one trusted person to help us make sense of our internal and external world. Infants who bond with their mothers look to them for first-line help to navigate physical reality. […]
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