Become the Person and Partner You Want to Be

Become the Person and Partner You Want to Be

Understand Yourself and Build Stronger Relationships

Couples Emotionally Focused Therapy

Understand your part in recurring patterns, listen with greater care, and practice more open, connected conversations together.

Individual Emotionally Focused Therapy

Start with yourself: explore your feelings, understand your reactions, and choose how you want to show up in your relationships.

Relationship Counseling

Learn to express what you need, hear another perspective, and build the everyday habits of a more thoughtful spouse or partner.

Individual Depth Psychotherapy

Expand your capacity to become your best self by diving into deeper self-understanding with a Jungian psychological and spiritual development approach.

Meaningful Relationship Change Can Begin With You

“I want to be a better husband.” “I want to be a better spouse.” “I want to communicate without shutting down.” Your own wish to grow is a meaningful place to start. Dr. Regier works with individuals and couples who want to understand their emotional patterns, take responsibility for their choices, and practice responding with greater care. You can ask about individual therapy even if your partner is not attending. The work begins with your goals and develops through reflection, honest conversation, and practice in daily life.

Meet Dr. Michael W. Regier

Dr. Michael Regier is a clinical psychologist, psychotherapist, certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and individual Depth Therapist. He has over 40 years of experience working with diverse clients in inpatient, outpatient, addictions, and corporate settings. He welcomes individuals who are ready to reflect and grow, as well as invitations from small groups and organizations for relationship education, teaching, storytelling, and music. Explore seminars, retreats, and group learning.

What Do I Want to Change?

Dr. Michael Regier offers Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) for partners who want to understand their emotional patterns and communicate with greater openness. Each partner is invited to reflect on their own reactions, name their needs clearly, and listen with curiosity. The focus is on the changes you can practice together: emotional presence, mutual respect, and more thoughtful responses during difficult conversations.Dr. Regier sees clients in his Los Osos, California office and throughout California online via Zoom.

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“I want to understand myself.” “I want to communicate better.” Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) offers space to explore the feelings and relationship patterns behind those goals. Dr. Regier works with you to notice what happens when you become overwhelmed, express your needs more clearly, and practice responses that reflect the person you want to be. You can begin individual work without a partner attending.

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Your wish to become a more thoughtful partner, parent, friend, or colleague can be the starting point for relationship counseling. Relationship Counseling and relationship education can help couples and individuals understand how to build relationship foundations. Understanding the science of attachment, how to grow emotional intelligence, and understanding personality differences are invaluable for helping you and your relationship thrive. With the right knowledge and guidance, you can experience those transformative aha moments when real change happens.

Michael’s books, online course, seminars, and retreats invite self-reflection and learning you can bring into everyday conversations. Ask about group learning, seminars, and retreat opportunities.

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Depth Therapy was created by the psychiatrist Carl Jung. Depth Therapy is ideal for individuals who are ready to do a deep dive into hidden feelings and memories that influence relationships, well-being, and living into your peak potential. An essential goal of depth therapy is what Jung called individuation, which involves integrating the different aspects of your personality into a unified whole, empowering you to become your best self.

Depth Therapy is ideal for people who have accomplished many life goals. They may have achieved a successful career and have a stable family life, but they still want to explore new paths for self-expression and contribution to the world.

This powerful method of psychotherapy uses techniques like dream analysis, journaling, active imagination, narrative therapy, and applying the meaning found in wisdom literature and mythology.

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