Navigating the needs and conflicts in a relationship requires deep training and experience. Dr. Regier has both. Many therapists who see couples have not had the years of video-supervised training and experience that EFT certification requires.

EFT gets below the surface of relationship conflicts by helping couples heal the emotions that trigger arguments. Most of the time, couples argue about things like “the burnt toast,” which does not explain why they are so upset. The hurts that build up from emotional neglect, damaging words, or feelings of betrayal are the injuries that need to be healed. By helping couples to be curious about each other’s emotions, the EFT therapist helps couples to have compassionate conversations that heal the hurts that cause arguments and distance in the relationship.

EFT is based on the science of attachment theory. Secure attachment develops when we learn to be emotionally compassionate, present, and have each other’s backs, when we have an equal relationship that seeks the perspective and wisdom our partner possesses.

EFT helps couples escape oppositional cyclical arguments, heal the trauma of betrayal and create intimate bonds that last a lifetime.

Research has found that secure attachment (connection) in couples is correlated with lower blood pressure and better cardiovascular health. It’s also shown to help lower depression and anxiety and increase one’s pain tolerance. Securely attached adults have stronger personal identities, which allows them to feel confident when separated from their spouses. Connected couples are better lovers and parents.