August 8, 2012 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles, Tandem Marriage
There was a whole lot happening for me emotionally before we did that first ride!So wait! We need to back up. Seeing the tandem racing bike for the first time made my heart beat faster. Everything about it looked like a racer even if it was 10 years old. The custom hubs, the Ultegra gearing, […]
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Tis The Season For Emotion
December 15, 2020 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Are you looking forward to this year’s Christmas? What are you feeling? Are you feeling happy that you will get to be with your family? Or perhaps sad that there will be no family gatherings at all this year? Or are you just trying to shut down all emotion? Is this really the season for […]
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3 Vital Keys to Connection in Marriage
January 4, 2019 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Beep, beep, beep! Susan slammed her hand down on the alarm to silence it. The stillness in the room was spoiled by the weighty reality of another long and lonely day. Her husband Mark would be at the office for more than a dozen hours, leaving Susan alone from sunup to sundown… yet again. Is […]
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7 Reasons Women Attack the Men They Love: How to Respond Without a Fight
July 20, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Virtually every man who has been in a love relationship has experienced his partner coming at him with critical emotion. Often the “attack” feels completely unwarranted. Understanding these 7 reasons women attack the men they love and how you can respond without a fight is critical to healthy and happy relationship. Are you ready to […]
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Keeping Your Love Alive: 4 Ways to Avoid Marriage Failure
February 21, 2016 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles, Tandem Marriage
Keeping the fires burning and the love alive in marriage may not come naturally. The new-love hormone, dopamine, begins to fade after the first year or two of relationship. What then? How do you keep love alive and your relationship healthy and vibrant? Our brain, memories and emotion: What makes us feel close to each […]
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Tandem Marriage: Being Your Best Self With The Person You Love
January 22, 2016 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles, Tandem Marriage
What is Tandem Marriage? Merriam Webster defines “tandem” as: a group of two people or things that work together; in partnership or in conjunction. If you have read through some of our previous Tandem Marriage blog posts, you’ll know that Michael and I ride a tandem racing bike, a bicycle-built-for-two. We have covered a bunch […]
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Attachment and Violent Anger – Part 1: How They Are Connected
January 18, 2016 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
How are Attachment and Violent Anger Connected? Understanding the connection between intimacy and anger is important for improving our own relationship, and if you are a therapist like me knowing how to help others. Some couples I work with are so stuck in a cycle of anger that the emotional communication work I normally do […]
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Love, Respect and Love Languages Did Not Save My Life!
December 16, 2014 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles, Tandem Marriage
Admittedly I am envious of the fame and fortune of popular Christian books suggesting a better marriage in 5, 7 or 10 steps. Love languages, respect and his and her needs are all pieces of making great marriage. But so much popular love advice today misses the love language of emotional connection. On a […]
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Tandem or Solo…Safe or Sorry?
October 21, 2014 / by Paula / Relational Excellence Articles, Tandem Marriage
For those of you who know us, you may have noticed some of the not-so-subtle differences in the way we roll. On the tandem I prefer the gentle rolling hills which nurture and calm my spirit; Michael goes after the big climb in anticipation of the exhilarating decent at 40+ mile-per-hour speeds. Both of our […]
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The Genetics and Neuroscience of Love
August 25, 2012 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles
Neuroscience is on the hunt for the essence of what connects us. The evidence is now clear that we are connected with each other emotionally in deeper ways than we have been able to imagine. Louis Cozolino in the book “The Neuroscience of Human Relationships” writes: “There are no single brains…Through the biochemical alchemy of […]
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The Fear of Attachment
August 8, 2012 / by Michael Wayne Regier Ph.D. / Relational Excellence Articles, Tandem Marriage
There was a whole lot happening for me emotionally before we did that first ride!So wait! We need to back up. Seeing the tandem racing bike for the first time made my heart beat faster. Everything about it looked like a racer even if it was 10 years old. The custom hubs, the Ultegra gearing, […]
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